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The 24-year-old wrecks her cars, and leaves them, doesn't pay her rent or utilities. Isn't she too old for dad to pay for all this?

I don’t think his daughter should still be in our budget, but my husband can’t say no to giving her money. Kiki is a habitual liar and user. She can’t pay for gas because she buys weed and alcohol instead,

I'm in my early 30s; my husband is 46. We have been married three years. He has a 24-year-old daughter, "Kiki."